____1. I
don't belong. I will always be on the outside (left out).
____2. My
feelings don't count. No one cares what I feel.
____3. No
one will love me or care about me just for myself.
____4. I will
always be lonely. The special man (woman) in my life will not be there for me.
____5. I will
isolate myself so that I won't be vulnerable to hurt, rejection, etc., any
more.
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____1. I am
not worthy to receive anything from God.
____2. I am
the problem. When something is wrong, it is my fault.
____3. I am
a bad person. If you knew the real me, you would reject me.
____4. I
must wear a mask so that people won't find out how horrible I am and reject me.
____5. I
have messed up so badly that I have missed God's best for me.
____6.
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____1. I
will never get credit for what I do.
____2. My value is
in what I do. I am valuable because I do good to others, because I am
"successful".
____3. Even when I
do/give my best, it is not good enough. I can never meet the standard.
____4. I
will choose to be passive in order to avoid conflict that would risk others'
disapproval.
____5. God
doesn't care if I have a "secret life", as long as I appear to be
good.
____6.
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Theme: Control
(to avoid hurt)
____1. I
have to plan every day of my life. I have to continually plan/strategize. I
can't relax.
____2. The
perfect life is one in which no conflict is allowed so there is peace.
____3. If I
dont do it, who will?
____4.
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Theme:
Physical
____1. I am
unattractive. God shortchanged me.
____2. I am
doomed to have certain physical disabilities. They are just part of what I have
inherited.
____3. It
is impossible to lose weight (or gain weight). I am just stuck.
____4. I am
not competent/complete as a man (woman).
____5.
_______________________________________________________________________
____1. I
will always be (angry, shy, jealous, insecure, fearful, etc.).
____2.
_______________________________________________________________________
____1. I
should have been a boy (girl). Then my parents would have valued/loved me more,
...etc.
____2. Men
(women) have it better.
____3. I
will never be known or appreciated for my real self.
____4. I
will never really change and be as God wants me to be.
____5.
_______________________________________________________________________
____1. I
have wasted a lot of time and energy, some of my best years.
____2
Turmoil is normal for me.
____3. I
will always have financial problems.
____4.
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____1. I
must be very guarded about what I say, since anything I say may be used against
me.
____2. I
have to guard and hide my emotions and feelings. I cannot give anyone the
satisfaction of
knowing that they
have wounded or hurt me. I'll not be vulnerable, humiliated, or shamed.
____3.
__________________________________________________________________________
____4.
__________________________________________________________________________
____I. The
correct way to respond if someone offends me is to punish them by withdrawing
and/or cutting them off.
____2.
__________________________________________________________________________
____3.
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Theme:
Victim
____1.
Authority figures will humiliate me and violate me.
____2. They
will just use and abuse me.
____3. My
value is based totally on others' judgment/prescription about me.
____4. I am
completely under their authority .I have no will or choice of my own.
____5. I will not
be known, understood, loved, or appreciated for who I am by those close to me.
____6.
__________________________________________________________________________
____7.
__________________________________________________________________________
Theme:
Hopelessness/Helplessness
____1. I am
out there all alone. If I get into trouble or need help, there is no one
to rescue me.
____2.
__________________________________________________________________________
____3. __________________________________________________________________________
____1. I will never
be able to fully give or receive love. I don't know what it is.
____2. If I
let anyone get close to me, I may get my heart broken again. I can't let myself
risk it.
____3. If l
fail to please you, I won't receive your pleasure and acceptance of me.
Therefore, I must strive even more. I must do whatever is necessary to try to
please you.
____4.
__________________________________________________________________________
____5.
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Theme:
God
____1. God
loves other people more than He loves me.
____2. God only
values me for what I do. My life is just a means to an end.
____3. No matter
how much I try, I'll never be able to do enough or do it well enough to please
God.
____4. God is
judging me when I relax. I have to stay busy about His work or He will abandon
me.
____5. God has let
me down before. He may do it again. I can't trust Him, or feel secure with Him.
____6.
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____7.
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